New York Times Op-Ed by Eli Finkel on Conflict in Relationships

Have you decided what to get for your valentine this year? You could try something classic, like chocolates. Or something blingy, like earrings. Or sexy, like lingerie.

But if you really want to improve your relationship, you should give your loved one an i.o.u.

Find a nice piece of stationery, and in your most graceful lettering, assert: “I promise to write about our next three fights as though I were a neutral observer.” Then, doodle a heart on the page, stick it in a pretty envelope and give it to that special someone over dinner.

Click here to read it.